Monday, December 25, 2006

Happy Christmas

I'm happy to tell you that after a week or so on goldenseal, my father is finally feeling better. He was sick and antibiotics just couldn't kick it, but he's feeling better now. Someone asked him on Friday if he used to be a radio DJ (which he did), so then he knew his voice was really coming back. He's up and around and feeling much better. I'm just glad that there is standard medicine and there is alternative medicine, because sometimes you need one and sometimes the other. It's great to have the options to choose from so that you can do what's best for whatever ailment you have.

I hope you're all having a great Christmas. I think I figured out today why we have Christmas. I know the main thing is to celebrate Christ, and we should have a day for that. But I like to think I'm a person who feels the same in my worship and love for Christ every day of the year. So, I thought maybe it was the gift exchange, to learn to give and to recieve, which is good, and also I thought maybe it's time off, to rest and have a break from working, which it is also, in my opinion. But I realized today it's mainly a time to stop and take the day to really let your family know that you love them, and have a day to just connect, and not be bothered by work while you're connecting. That's why, I think, we have Christmas. Anyway, that's why I'm enjoying myself today. :-)

Ready for pictures? I thought you were.....

This is the great bed tent that my dad got for Sam for his birthday. He LOVES it! Thanks Dad!


We put it on top of his bed, then put all his blankets inside, and of course, all of his stuffed animals. He sleeps with the screen door open, but don't worry, even if he shuts it, it's half lined with screens anyway, so he gets plenty of circulation.

Here's just the three dogs and one bear that he left in there today and didn't take downstairs to Christmas dinner. :-)

Here's Brian's remote controlled car that he ordered for his birthday, and just arrived last week. Well, they sent a pink one on time, but we held out for the blue one! This thing goes 40 mph! He loves it.




Here the boys are opening gifts from Aunt Kim. Kim home made (somehow) these amazing hangers with a beautifully painted surface with their names on it! Amazing.

Look how beautiful! My family is so artistic!

Here, Alex is checking out a book of Sudoku for kids. His grandma knows him well!


Sam is showing us his new sweater!


Here, the presents are opened, and the kids are completely occupied learning what they can do. Here, they are checking out a new magnet set from Aunt Bridget.

So, Christmas was nice. The only bad thing is that the sun went down just now while I was creating this blog. I meant to go on a nice walk outside. It's beautiful out there. Cold, though, like 50 today, so maybe I should walk on the treadmill instead. I'm just so happy I can walk. All of November and part of December I had two sprained ankles, then my hips got so bad from my misaligned foot that I really couldn't walk. I had to time myself and make sure I didn't walk too much per day. I had two podiatrists and a physical therapist all tell me that I had to stop exercising until the ankles healed and my custom made shoe insert orthotics arrived. Well, that time has come! The ankles are better, mostly, and the orthotics came last Monday. They are comfortable, moreso than the non-custom ones were, but they made me feel like I was leaning to the left all the time. This just shows how twisted my foot and hips were! I was told I could use the orthotics 2 hours the first day, then 3 the next, and so forth. By the end of the second day, I couldn't walk any more even without shoes. Even bone in my body, especially my neck, but also my back, hips, and foot bones, were all realigning. It was a big deal. By Thursday, I could walk!! Not forever or anything, and definitely not without pain (still not there yet), but without the stabbing hip pain I could go for several hours. And by Friday, I found that I didn't have to sit at every possible available seating area. Amazing. It's been years since my hips and feet allowed that. I told Brian it will really take some time to get used to. Saturday I went on my nice long walk that I love. I missed it for all of December, so I went, even thought it was POURING rain. There were very few other really devoted people there. It's been two, almost two and a half days since then and those shoes are still completely soaked. It was fun!
So, I'll still be sore and adjusting and everything for a few more weeks, but it's so amazing to know it will never have to be that bad again. I feel like, I don't know. It really feels like I had a horrible chronic lifelong condition, which I guess I did, that I am suddenly allowed to be cured of! It's amazing. How's that for a great Christmas present from God. I'm just so grateful. I love walking. I look forward over the next few weeks to getting better at walking longer distances like I used to. I also look forward to being able to comfortably stand in one place while talking to someone. I can't remember the last time that felt good. Anyway, it's amazing how life can arrange things to make you so darn grateful for such basic things. But when a basic thing is ever returned, the gratitude is overwhelming. My hip pain is the recent development of this, since my pregnancies, but my left foot and calf have hurt since I was about ten. I really needed orthotics! I'm so happy!! Last night we all cleaned the house, and I did two hours of cleaning straight, without having to sit down in the middle or take pain medication. Really, that hasn't happened in about two years. The past few months, I couldn't even clean for more than 30 minutes in a whole day. This is really going to improve the quality of my family's life. :-)
What else... Let's see. I'm going to get a watch for Christmas. I ordered it online because the exact one I wanted wasn't in the stores. I love watches, so I'm excited about it. I'm going to try to take some days off from Primary work this week, but it'll have to wait till Wednesday. Not only is it the end of the year, so we have to prepare all the teachers and new classes for next year, but in two weeks we will move to a new building and gain about 150 new people in the ward thanks to ward boundary reorganization that we very much needed. :-) We'll have lots of new kids and new leaders available which I'm so happy about, but the changes do mean there is a lot of work over this holiday season. Good thing I'm taking most of this week off first. Brian and I can have some much deserved relaxation time. And, our favorite, re-getting-to-know-you time! :-)
Love you all. Have a great winter and new year!

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Avoiding or Getting Over Illnesses

Many people get many illnesses this time of year. Some have requested that I tell you possible things to do about it. So, here you are:

Most of the things on this list are usually indicated to cut off the beginnings of a cold; to shorten the duration. And while that is the best method, for those of you who are already sick, don't worry, you can still do them and they will still help. This is because the things listed below will not treat symptoms, or even directly attack the bug, but rather will strengthen your immune system so that you can do it yourself, more effectively.

Also, if you are currently on any prescribed medication, either for this cold/infection, or for anything else, please continue to take it. The alternative remedies I will list are like backdoors to the illness. While we use them, we still want all the help we can get from the front lines.

This first group is a list of the essentials. Very powerful and necessary things to stay healthy. The second list is optionals, extra things you can do if you’d really like to prevent or eliminate your illness.

GROUP ONE: ESSENTIALS

Goldenseal: The tincture form works best, capsules are also available. This is by far the best for infections. I've made my own sinusitis go away with this. Please not that as with anything you'll take, it takes a while to clear up all the congestion, but at least it gets better. The goldenseal is nature's antibiotic, it kills anything. It's amazing.

Sambucol (name brand), black elderberry syrup: Also amazing. This is essentially juice of a certain berry. This juice alone can cure colds! I've staved off three colds this month just by drinking this stuff. It cures sore throats, has lots of vitamin C, and most importantly, is specifically good at treating respiratory illnesses.

Traditional Medicinals herbal teas (name brand): This company has three or four teas you'll be interested in. 1) Echinacea Elder has elderberry in it and is for colds that include respiratory problems. 2) Echinacea Plus is three kinds of echinacea, and is also good. 3) Throat Coat may not help you heal, but will definitely help a sore and dry throat. 4) Breathe Easy is just for respiratory ailments. The box says it's only for upper respiratory, which means your nose, but when my husband gets sick and has a tight chest, he says it does wonders for him. I like to combine three teas in 2 cups of hot water. Let it cool before drinking, or add ice after ten minutes of steeping. Sweeten with honey to further help a sore throat and to provide a little more anti-inflammatory properties. Take this tea 2 to 4 times a day.

Zinc: Zinc is very strong and very useful in helping your body become resistant to illnesses. Zinc lozenges with vitamin C and echinacea are available in a great cherry flavor. Take several of these a day. Zinc is better absorbed into the body through the inside of the mouth straight to the blood system than into the stomach where the liver can cancel it out.

Zicam: The best form of zinc, and a great way to boost the immune system in addition to goldenseal and sambucol is zicam. Zicam (name brand) makes a nasal gel that is absorbed into the inner lining of the nose. No, this doesn't hurt or sting like I thought it would. I have the spray. You just spray it, wait one minute, then blow your nose. No big deal, but do that one to three times a day and you'll suddenly fight off diseases everyone else is getting. They also have a losenge type, and a throat spray, but those two formats of delivery are not only not as effective, but also they didn't put all the medicine in those two formulas. Stick with the two nasal deliveries.

Note: Zicam (name brand) also sells cold medicine, which is like normal medicine in that it treats the symptoms of the cold. You'll need to know the difference between the cold medicine (day and night versions) and the immune system booster. Another note: once you do get sick, taking decongestants is not usually the best way to go, because it causes the congestion to stay in you which is how it gets infected leading to sinusitis and pneumonia. However, the Zicam Cold & Flu Daytime spoon dose medicine (liquid medicine in plastic spoons for mixing in drinks, though I like to just lick it off the spoon) actually helps me feel really healthy and I appear to heal faster. If you need Nyquil or Tylenol cold or something, I recommend this brand and product as a replacement.

Vitamins: In addition to the mineral zinc, you should also make sure you take lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin E. These three vitamins and mineral are essential in the plan to make or keep you healthy. I recommend 400-800 i.u. of Vitamin E per day, mixed tocopherols is best, and 1,000 to 2,000 mg of Vitamin C per day. One great form of Vitamin C are packets to make flavored fizzy drinks called Emergen-C (name brand). Each packet has 1,000 mg of Vitamin C as well as some other vitamins that help you absorb it. The liquid delivery also helps you absorb it faster and more effectively. Pour one packet into about 4 ounces of water or juice. If you have citrus flavored packet (I like tangerine), I recommend using only citrus juice or water, to make it taste right. You’ll actually feel better after drinking this! Have two a day, or three a day for a few days just to kick start your system. Note: taking megadoses of Vitamin C, such as 3,000 mg, is okay for a little while, but be careful to make sure that you ease off of it slowly. If you jump from 3,000 one day to 1,000, your body will think it has none and will begin to show signs of scurvy such as bad gums. Don’t be scared, it’s no big deal and totally fixable. If you notice this, just increase the Vitamin C level and then bring it down more slowly over the next few days.

Steam Bath: This the last thing I’ll list here on the essentials list, before I move on to the optionals list. Steam baths, to induce sweating, is something I discovered this summer. I’ll tell you how to do it below. I wanted to know more about how sweating helped people be healthy, and why we get fevers. My research showed me that sweating is an amazing way to get toxins out of the body. The only other way is through the waste system, which is much more complicated, and, if you’re sick, it’s already compromised and weak. The sweat ducts in the skin are a straight pathway out of the body. This is an amazing trick, and I do it now even when I’m healthy because it makes me feel so much better. It’s not hard to do. I recommend this for anyone who is even a little sick and who owns a bathroom. If you have any built up congestion, whether in your nose, sinuses, lungs, or all three, this will do a fascinating trick that nothing else has been able to do – it will invite that congestion to come out of you at a highly accelerated rate. The stuff just begs to come out! Steam baths are also artificial fevers, which help do what a normal fever does, which is to raise your body temperature to a degree which the viruses and bacteria can’t survive anymore.

How to have a steam bath: A steam bath is like a dry sauna, only it’s a wet sauna. It’s a lot more comfortable and pleasurable to be in, the heat feels good instead of piercing, and you sweat at a much lower temperature – like 112 degrees lower. Since most of us don’t have access to a gym sauna, here’s how you can do it in your home…. Go to your smallest bathroom in your home (or the only bathroom in your home) and turn on the shower to the hottest possible setting. Some of you may need to raise your water heater setting in the winter to achieve the proper level; just remember to lower it again after your steam bath. Don’t eat right before this, wait until about 1.5 to 2 hours after you’ve eaten anything heavy. Light snacks don’t matter. Keep the venting system in the bathroom off, place a towel on the floor by the door to prevent heat and steam loss under the door. I like to set it up for about 5 minutes before I enter, to let it warm up a bit, but that’s optional. Go into the bathroom with a room temperature bottle of water, towels, a waterproof watch (that you are not wearing), and no clothes or jewelry. You may also want to bring a thermometer (aiming for about 96 degrees), hygrometer (really optional, and aiming for 100% humidity), reading material that can get fairly wet (in case you get bored), a body scrubbing brush, and soap. Oh, and candles if you want, too, again, really optional, eucalyptus candles or aromatherapy would also be really useful here. You’ll get your own ritual after a while. Empty the room of things you don’t want to get wet, such as magazines. Toilet paper seems to survive just fine in my bathroom. Get comfortable wherever you want in the room. You may want to start by sitting on a towel on the toilet or tub rim. After about ten minutes, I like to get hotter, so I sit on the rim of the tub, but with the shower curtain closed. It’s the most steam I’ve figured out how to be in. Be careful not to touch the water, angle the shower head up and into the wall corner so that you get more steam, but less chance of scalding. Don’t, by the way, don’t try this with children or if you are pregnant. If the water is not really hot to the touch, if you can comfortably leave your hand in it, then it’s not hot enough. At some point, if you want to be really gung-ho about this, scrub your body with a bath body brush, then soap up, then turn the water temperature down for a minute to rinse off. Then turn the water back up. The scrubbing and cleaning will help open and unclog your pores all over your body to allow the toxins to flow out of you unhindered. The steam bath should be 20 minutes at minimum, and 45 minutes to an hour if you’re really enjoying yourself. When you feel done, get out. If you get lightheaded at any time, you’re done. You can always go cool off and then come back, but be careful about being lightheaded. The steam and heat messes with your blood pressure so you may get dizzy if you stand up too quickly. Just be slow and careful and you’ll have a great time. If you’re congested at all, and sometimes even if you didn’t know you were congested, you’ll feel like you have a need to blow your nose, or clear your throat, or cough up something. Please, take EVERY opportunity to do this. Do this often while you’re in there. This is the whole point. You can do a week’s worth of draining with one hour in the steam. One last detail, you have to drink a lot of water. I go through 16 ounces of water for every 25 minutes I’m in steam. Sometimes, I need carbohydrates and salt afterwards as well, to replace the lost water and salt from sweating. Be sure to replenish yourself. Salty crackers and water are good, or Gatorade is good too, as long as you drink water as well, at least 50/50, and not just Gatorade. After the sweating, towel off, and go lie down on your bed for about 15 minutes, or until you are comfortable and cool. You will continue to sweat and blow your nose a lot during this time, this is very good. If you just take a cold shower at the end of your sweat, you’ll waste another good 20 minutes of sweating time during the cool off. So, go have a nice rest while you cool off. After the cool off time, go take a normal shower and be sure to clean your skin well, especially under the arms and the crotch area, which is where you did most of the good sweating. You may be tired for the next hour or two, but just be sure to eat and drink enough and soon you’ll notice how much cleaner your insides feel and how much clearer your breathing is.

GROUP TWO: OPTIONALS

DanActive Immunity (name brand): Dannon yogurt makes a yogurt with this name. It is a wonderful probiotic, I recommend you take one of these a day, even when you’re healthy. Probiotics add good bacteria to your digestive tract, most all diseases can be eradicated if you provide enough good bacteria to wipe them out. They sell them in week packs, for convenience. Vanilla is my favorite, but it comes in other flavors as well. It’s a drinkable yogurt, with the consistency of milk. Very yummy. Very good.

Warm bath with Epsom Salts: Another good way to artificially create a fever is to take a warm bath, as warm as you can stand it. This won’t clear your sinuses like a steam bath, and won’t create as much sweating either, but sometimes a mild fever is just what you need. Add Epsom salts and a little sea salt to help balance your body and relax sore muscles. I’m not sure why, but Epsom salts are good medicine. Somehow they affect tissues in your body for the better. They also help alkalize your body. An acid body is a playground for diseases, but an alkaline, or basic, body is strong and protected from them.

Colloidal Silver: This is a small tincture bottle of brown liquid. Electrically, they can get elemental silver into water, for easier absorption into your body. Take a few dropperfuls in your mouth a few times a day. Silver is a great anti-microbial and kills almost anything. It’s so effective, in fact, that you’ll need to be sure to drink enough water with it, and to supplement with yogurt or acidolphius to replace the good bacteria in your system.

Neti Pot (name brand): This is a small pot that’s shaped rather like Aladdin’s lamp. It is filled with warm water and just the right amount of sea salt, and some goldenseal (optional, for infections) and is used to clean out your sinuses. How?, you ask? Well, you may not want to know. :-) You pour the mix into one nostril, it goes into your sinuses in your head, and comes out the other nostril, bringing the mucus out with it. See, I told you you didn’t want to know. This works really well, though, and sometimes, it’s the only option left for a really bad case of congestion. I used to use this a lot. However, I thought I’d let you know, ever since I’ve been taking steam baths, I have never needed to use the neti pot. The steam cleans out my congestion long before it gets bad.

Green Magma (name brand) and soup: I mentioned alkalizing the body before. I’d like to give you a few more ways to do that. First of all, when you’re sick, or about to get sick, stop having desserts. Sugar is very good at weakening your immune system when you need it most. Create the opposite effect that sugar produces by eating the opposite of sugar: salt and vegetables. Chicken broth / chicken noodle soup, and miso soup for the vegetarians are both excellent at neutralizing the acid in your blood and bringing the pH back up to a good level. They both are warm, liquid, and salty, three things you need right now. Another thing I love is Green Magma, which is a pulverized powdered form of barley grass. Put two teaspoons in a glass of apple juice, once or twice a day. Even when you’re healthy this stuff will make you feel energized, balanced, and just downright better.

Aromatherapy: Some essential oils are very useful in clearing congestion and helping to overcome illnesses. Eucalyptus oil is by far the best for your nose. It smells like camphor, only better. I like to use both eucalyptus and lavender essential oils together. Not only do they smell great, but lavender is an amazing antibiotic. You can even put a drop of it in your tea, or a few drops of it in a mix with half an ounce of olive or grapeseed oil in a dropper to be used to fight ear infections. Or rub both oils onto your chest for a Mentholatum effect. But, aside from the ear dropper thing, if it’s for your nose, then getting it in the air is the best thing. Place olive oil in an aromatherapy burner with a tea lite candle underneath. Add about 5-10 drops of each oil. Less is needed with better quality essential oils. After a few minutes the smell and will enter the room. This is a great thing to do in the room your going to sleep in later that night.

Massage: Massage therapy is another wonderful option that I highly recommend, though I know not everyone will be familiar with it. Massage therapy isn’t just for enjoyment. Trust me, with my messed up leg, I’ve had some pretty painful massages. :-) But massage therapy is a amazing at keeping the fluids moving in your body. When an illness comes, it’s usually because there was an imbalance somewhere in your body. Massage can eliminate the tense areas in which muscle tissue may be holding onto a toxic build up of lactic acid, and it can also redistribute the pressure build up in your head, temples, cheekbones, face, and upper neck when you have clogged sinuses. Even have them loosen the fascia on your head if you’d like. (Yes, I’ve needed this before.) It may seem unrelated to your illness, but it’s really not. A 30-minute massage can really change your life. Before the massage, be sure to drink enough water. After the massage, you may need to ice things down. After the icing, take a warm bath or a steam bath to let all the toxins the therapist loosened have a chance to leave your body. If you don’t do this, you’ll find yourself quite sore and quite sick the next day because all those toxins and lactic acid just settled down in you again. It’s kind of like spitting after brushing your teeth. All the brushing in the world won’t do much good if you don’t spit (in this case: sweat) and rinse your mouth out with water (in this case: drink water).

Ok, I’m done. I didn’t mean to go on so long. I guess this article was a long time coming, and I had a lot of things I wanted to tell you. I want to give you all the information and power you need to take good care of yourself in regards to colds, flu, and infections. If you have any questions, please, of course, feel free to ask. I’ve been living with these remedies for seven years now. Everyone’s body is different, but the basics are similar enough that many of the things listed here should work on you.

I should note, I am not a doctor, I’m just very good at learning and remembering. None of this article can or should be taken as proper medical advice. If you want to go see a doctor, please do that. Doctors are very useful sometimes. However, there may be times when you want more, you want to help to boost your own immune system, you want to stop a cold before it starts, you want a backdoor. I hope these things will help. :-)

Sunday, December 10, 2006

Too Little or Too Much Light?

Several weeks ago when we had the first signs of fall here in Texas, which is another way of saying it wasn't the middle of summer anymore, I had some thoughts. I've always loved the winter and hated the summer. Now, I know this is largely explainable by where I live. I grew up in Tucson, Arizona, and now I live in Texas. Both warm and southerly states. Both places where the winters are very mild and the summers are both very hot and very long. So, I always thought it was rather normal.

But this time I wanted to know more. I have theories about it, such as that my very fair Scottish skin and hair are simply better designed to live in lands with less heat. And, really, that might be the answer, or at least a part of it.

I looked up Seasonal Affective Disorder, SAD, which I'd heard of before, and is the condition in which people get clinically depressed in the winter. People with this disorder have predictable chemical changes that create depression, and that do not result from a conscious decision to change their emotions or hormones but rather are caused by less sunlight. This is both more indirect rays and fewer hours per day of sunlight. The best solution to SAD appears to be sitting in front of full-spectrum lights for a certain prescribed amount of time per day in the winter.

I investigated the existance of an inverse SAD effect, and I found it. Not as many cases exist, of course, since most people in this country live further north of me. The condition, in fact, is said to be most commonly found in the southern most states of the US. It is called Reverse Seasonal Affective Disorder and is marked by the same symptoms, with the opposite cause.

I knew this applied to me because of the sheer rush of happiness and feelings of extreme peace that I feel in fall and especially in winter.

I thought for the longest while that it was temperature, that I just liked the cold, so I watched myself for the past two months. I get cold just like everyone else. Cold makes me happy, but only sometimes, not all the time. So it wasn't a uniform cause of any chemical changes. I began considering light. I know there is actually a rare condition in which people are allergic to light, and have to live in the dark, so I figure it's not unreasonable to postulate that there could be a large group of people who are merely uncomfortable in too much light. And, I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out that most of those people are fair-skinned people living in near-tropical latitudes, such as myself. :-)

In fact, I might even go so far as to say that the hormone inbalances present in my family might have been triggered by living at the wrong latitute for our genome. Clearly, we haven't had these imbalances forever, or else our counterparts still living in the UK would share those imbalances.

So far, my observations on myself have proven this light thing to be quite viable. For example, I love my sunglasses. I need them for basic survival and prevention of massive headaches in the summer, and even in the winter, when it's overcast, I'm still a lot more comfortable wearing them. I've noticed that, disproving my theory that cold weather is what makes me happy, that temperature isn't nearly as important as light levels outside. If the sky is completely overcast, I'm as happy as I can possibly be!!! When the sky is the opposite, clear and sunny, even if it's cold outside, my mood is most definitely quite subdued. This is not even going into how incredibly sensitive I am to being sunburned, and how much I hate the feeling on sunlight on my skin or clothes.

The solution? Once you know a new part of yourself, addressing it is more of a priviledge than a chore. When I find myself stressed, just try to get to a darker place. Simple as that. Close the drapes more often, turn off a lightswitch when it seems appropriate. Basically spoil myself in ways that I always thought were socially unacceptable. I'll have to keep learning more as the year progresses, and as the dreaded sun comes back in the spring. In the meantime, I intend to live it up during this cool, darker winter.

Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Good News, ankle update

We went to the other doctor today. I was very nervous, but Brian came so that helped a lot. :-)

This guy was great. He also has an ongoing ankle injury and can sprain it by walking on a large pebble, and, he hasn't had surgery for it. I was very relieved that he had a similar injury and that he wasn't going to push surgery on me.

He taught me some more about how to care for a sprain, and set me up with some Physical Therapy. Also, he very much agrees that I need orthotics, which are custom made shoe inserts. He agrees with me that the pronated feet are what causes all the sprained ankle, not to mention all the hip pain. I'm so happy to be having all of this addressed.

So, thoughout December, I'll get orthotics made and start physical therapy. I should start feeling a lot better by the end of the year. :-)

He says I need to stop exercising and such for a few weeks, until the PT starts and I get my orthotics, which is sad, because I practically live for my Saturday walks around the lake, but it will be nice to get this done, then it won't hurt in the future. Also, this is really good news for future pregnancies. Both of my last pregnancies were more difficult and complicated because my feet, and therefore legs and hips were misaligned. Alex got stuck coming out because he basically needed to turn an extra corner, so we needed a skilled doctor to fish him out, and with Sam my hips hurt so bad that I couldn't sleep at night and had to go to a Chiropractor three times a week for the last trimester. Then, ever since he's been born, almost five years now, I've had to go to a massage therapist every two weeks to have her realign my hips and massage out the damage that walking does.

I'm excited, and relieved, and hopeful for the future. :-)

Saturday, November 25, 2006

Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving! We had a great holiday this weekend. Just staying home and resting. Thursday was a great meal accompanied by football on tv and resting. Friday we ran errands, seemed like the thing to do :-), and we picked up a new mobile phone for me, which I really needed. Now I can answer my phone, the house phone which is transferred, two email accounts, and two IM accounts, and have internet services. I'm so happy. And, most importantly, my phone won't hang up on you anymore when you try to call me. :-) I hope you all had a great holiday as well. Later, Brian's going to look into buying and putting up exterior Christmas lights for the first time. We'll see how it goes. Have a great weekend! Here are some pictures from around our house on Thursday.
Fall Trees in our Backyard

Cute Boys ready to eat a Thanksgiving meal.

The table is decorated and set.

Here's a picture of our backyard patio, with picnic table and the new grill.

Part of our Living Room. Sam has made sure that his stuffed animals are included in the festivities.


The table is now ready.


Brian held the camera out and took a picture of both of us. :-)

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Diagnosis

I went to the specialist. Good thing I brought x-rays, because he wanted to take his own. The diagnosis is chronic lateral ankle instability. At least two of the three ligaments on my ankle are severely stretched. He says my choices are ankle braces for the rest of my life or surgery. And he recommends the surgery. He's now referred me to his friend who does the same thing as he does, but does surgery more often; we can get a surgical consult.

To tell the truth, and I didn't tell him this, I'm leaning towards not having surgery. Not only is the recovery two months, but more importantly, I don't think I'm comfortable with the idea of my tendons being moved around and reassigned. I'm sure it would work, however. I guess it's like glasses. Brian and I could have eye surgery, but it's fine, we're used to glasses, they work well, just live with it. An ankle brace would be just like glasses. I'm quite used to this ankle. It would be too weird for it to suddenly be straight and firm. It wouldn't feel like me.

The trick is that the ankle can't take much more. He says the bone shows a lot of stress, and looks like a bone would look after repeated sprains. He asked if they've been getting worse, and I hadn't realized it consciously, but they have. The past two hurt in my foot as well as my ankle, and the one this weekend forced a limp, which I didn't appreciate. I guess that's what finally motivated me to go to the doctor. He says it's just a matter of time until every sprain is replaced by a fracture. That it will keep happening for the rest of my life, and keep getting worse.

Well, we'll probably get the consult, and then I'll probably just buy a new ankle brace or two, for variety's sake. I'm quite tired of the one I have now. Also, he likes my orthotics I have, he says they're the best non-custom ones. But he says I need custom, so once I get the surgery, or once I decide not to get it, I need to go back and get custom orthotics made.

The good news is that all this is what causes my hips to get misaligned. Once I have better orthotics, and wear the brace a lot more, my hips won't hurt anymore. You know, I'll have to find a brace that I could wear to the beach, in the water, since walking on the sand and pushing through the waves always sprains my ankle. Adjustments.

Monday, November 13, 2006

Doctor

I sprained my ankle again Saturday on my walk around the lake, the walk that I love to take. I sprain this thing about once every 1-2 months. It's quite normal for me. However, this time, I'm tired of it. I'm just not in the mood for limping this weekend. Usually, I'm strangly okay with it, and it doesn't bother me. I guess I just finally needed to know if anything could be done about it.

So, I went to the doctor yesterday, to the weekend place. They took x-rays and everything. Nothing is broken. It's funny, other than my teeth, that ankle is the only part of my body that's been x-rayed. It was x-rayed when I was 9, and I sprained the same ankle really badly. My theory is that the thing never healed properly when I was 9, because it sprains so easily now. The doctor referred me to a podiatrist, so I'll go see him tomorrow morning. That's funny for two reasons, one, my aunt is a podiatrist, so it's funny that I'd need a posiatrist other than her. Two, I always knew I needed to go to a podiatrist for this foot and ankle, since I was about 11. It's never been right since the sprain when I was 9. I've just been putting it off.

Let the record show that it's finally time. I picked up my x-rays from the doctor's office this morning, and I'll bring them with me tomorrow.

That's all, no article today. I'm tired from walking; need to rest. Love you all!

Monday, November 06, 2006

How to convince your husband?

Recently, I was talking to a friend about unassisted homebirth, which is something I've done, and something she was interested in. I won't go into the pros and cons of unassisted homebirth here, I'll refer you to my other articles on that. However, she pointed out, it came down to one thing: even if this choice was the best option for her, how could she get her husband to agree with her? How could a wife get a husband to agree on anything? She asked me what I did to "convince" my husband. Well, here's how it is.

The key to this method is respect. If your husband is a good man, and you respect each other, this will work very well. Remember to respect him, and he will respect you.

When I am learning about a new thing, perhaps a new thing we could do to improve our family, or a new belief system, or a device I want to buy, or whatever, I tend to read a lot about it. My husband, though also a great reader, simply doesn't have as much time in his life to learn and read as I do. So, once I begin to love a topic, and want to get him on board, I begin a slow teaching technique. Long before I tell him my opinion on the topic, or why I love it and am so exicted about it, like days or weeks before that, I gradually begin to introduce the subject. I try to sound very neutral about it.

Indeed, I must be very neutral about it. If I were to flood him, not only with information on the subject, but also with my strong emotions and feelings on the subject and how it can change our lives, it would be far too much for a man to handle. Men move much more slowly than woman do, especially when emotions and passion for something are involved.

The first night, for example, I will tell him that the thing exists, that some people actually do this thing. Then, the next night, if he's ready, I spend just a few minutes of the evening, not too long, further describing what the thing is -- still, completely neutral in emotion or opinion towards the subject. Then, I give it a few days, like two or three, in which I continue to learn about it, but I don't mention it to him at all. This gives you time to be absolutely sure on the topic by learning as much about it is possible, and more importantly gives him time to feel that he is not being ambushed every time you see him. This is an important step, don't skip it.

Then, after that time has passed, you gently bring it up again, this time telling him you kind of have an opinion and might be in favor of this thing. Even though you are incredibly passionate about it, he's still not ready for that. This evening, you're still mostly sharing facts, but you are also telling him that this thing may be rather important to you. He didn't know this before, this is the first time he's hearing it. Remain calm, you are not pressuring him, you are merely stating your opinion, then backing off. It will be about more three days until he will start to understand what your opinion is and what it means. Be careful in this stage. If you do not harness your emotions, you might find yourself telling him that you will to do the thing, no matter what his opinion is on it. Whether or not this is true, today's not the day to mention it.

The trick to this whole thing is to set up a situation in which your husband feels free, and indeed, really is free, to make his own decision on the subject, and remains at all times in a situation in which he is completely free of spousal pressure. See, you're not telling him what to do. You are giving him the following information, like a news article would:

1) this thing exists, and here are the facts on it, in a fair and balanced manner, not taking sides
2) later, this is my personal opinion on the subject.

Both of these two things listed above are just giving him information that he didn't have before. He didn't know the thing existed, or was a real possibility in your lives, and he didn't know you cared about it.

After providing such information, and providing days or weeks of time and productive discussions on the matter, he will then be in a position to form his own opinion on it. A person really can't form an opinion until they have a certain amount of information on it.

The productive discussions may go on as long as you both want to talk on the matter. If you think he's forgotten about it, it's quite possible he has. It's okay to bring up the subject when you wish, provided that the first steps are completed. Be aware as you are talking to him, though. Be sensitive, and be prepared to drop the subject once he is finished talking about it that day.

Oh, and by the way, don't ask his opinion on it until you're at least a week into this, maybe not even then. When he knows his opinion, he'll tell you. Don't push him, or he'll back out of the deal completely. You can ask him, when he's ready, one or two weeks into it, if you can do the thing. He may not answer right away, but it's good at that point to tell him what your goal is, and what you need of him, for whenever he's ready to give it.

This is how I "convince" my husband. I leave it in quotes, because, as I understand it, I'm not convincing, or trying to change his mind without consulting him on it first, and I am not telling him what to do. I am providing him time and information that he needs to form an opinion and a plan.

Yes, this may completely fail. By respecting that your husband, just like you, has all these levels of freedom, he may completely go the other way. But, hopefully, it won't happen too often. Plus, it's well worth it, not only because it's a nice way to do things in a marriage, but because those times when he does agree with you, he'll really agree with you!

Friday, November 03, 2006

Halloween and Master Bedroom Pictures

Here are the pictures of the newly rearranged master bedroom I promised. Here you can see the bed in the corner, and my bookcase.


This is the view from the bed. The bedspread really doesn' t match the walls, the flash on the camera just brightened it. Here you can see Brian's bookcase-type-piece of furniture, on the left, and his desk and accessories on the right of the picture.


Here's the place where the two desks come together in the middle of the room. This way we can work on our work, and still be together. When our offices were in separate rooms before, we felt like we had to choose between getting work done, and being together. This is much nicer. And the boys can sit in Brian's chair (on the left) and off the side of my desk during the daytime when we do schoolwork.


Here's a closeup of the two desks together. Maybe it's symbolic of our marriage. Different people who are right next to each other. :-)


Here is the boys dressed for Halloween. Alex is Superman again, like last year, and Sam is a "dead man". He was going to be a Jack-o-Lantern, until about 4pm on Halloween, then he changed his mind. He wanted to be a "dead man" like Brian was last year, from the song: it's a dead man's party.


This is the crazy pose of the boys in their costumes.

Monday, October 30, 2006

New Living Room

Over the summer, we have slowly recreated our living room. I've been wanting to do this for years, and I'm thrilled that it was finally time to do it. :-)

Here you can see one of the new sofas, and the ottoman. I also finally painted the walls a nice light brown, which I've wanted to do for a while. The electric piano is not new.


The wall color was carefully chosen to tie together the carpet, the ottoman, and the sofas. They call the sofa leather "bomber jacket leather". It's incredibly soft.

The entertainment unit has not changed. Here you can see the second sofa. There are two sofas and one loveseat.



The view of the table behind the loveseat.

More Pictures

Sam's new room.

Alex's new room.

Part of the new loft. The loft has also been painted a nice light brown to cover what used to be pink and dirty white walls.

This is a sign Sam made and put in front of his room:
"Belong to Samy"

We took these pictures, above and below, as we drove through a small town in Southern Texas that was named Sebastian, just like my nephew. :-)



Those wonderful boys.

This is a drawing Alex did for school last week. We had learned all about atoms that day. He decided to draw a picture of a Helium atom.

Here, Sam is rocking his dog.

The dog's almost asleep.


A beautiful piece of art that Alex made out of shaped pieces of wood. He does this for fun, with no one around to help.

Sam made his own sling and was able to fit a horse and three dogs in it.

The way our house used to be

January of this year, we changed around many things in the second floor of our house. We put the boys' rooms, minus beds, in the loft. Their bunkbeds were in a corner of the master bedroom, and the two small bedrooms of our house were used as parental offices.

The boys' "room", Sam on the left, and Alex on the right. You can easily see the boundries made with the matching red-topped toyboxes.


This was my office, from January to September. The walls are blue because it was originally supposed to be the boys' room.

This is another view of the boys' room. Here, seeing mostly Sam's room.

Sea World, part 2

More pictures from the week at Sea World Camp.

Super Alex. The wettest boy around!

Our camp group receiving a lesson next to the coral reef tank. Divers getting into the water for diver training and to feed the fish.

And for Brian, a shark!


Sammy gets to touch a small, and pregnant, nurse shark.



Sam jumped up and down with joy after touching the shark!




More joy!

Visiting the Killer Whales in the tank behind the Believe! stadium.


Sam is happy to be here with "his" whales.


After school on the last day, we decided to attend the Killer Whale Show. Here we are waiting, and ready!